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21st century parenting – Praise Fowowe

Parenting is one of the most important concepts on earth and it is one of the greatest needs of our world because every global crisis today points at the absence of real parents.

Often times we see people misbehave in the society or leaders who lie on TV, but we fail to ask the question ‘who are the parents?’. Kids naturally take up the nature and character of their parents except there is an intervention and that is why I often talk about the purity of a father’s breath which ultimately forms the character of a child.

If I pray for you now saying 'may your child become your secret life', would you be comfortable saying 'amen'?. Unfortunately, the real you that is hidden from the majority is what your child would take after except there is an intervention.

Our world has become a sexualized one and tending towards a homosexualized one because parents have lost what it means to be proper parents. As a matter of fact, I...

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 20– YOUR TREE CAN’T MAKE A FOREST

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 ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 20– YOUR TREE CAN’T MAKE A FOREST

A man told me that he is only accountable to God and I laughed because if God never wanted him to be accountable to any other human he wouldn’t have been born by human beings; wouldn’t have learnt ABC from anyone and God would have everything he needs  dropped directly from heaven. It is amazing how many of us lie to ourselves to escape reality. I still repeat today that anyone  without any authority figure like a mentor over his life is on his way to becoming a beast.

 We all need someone to call us to order and we can’t survive without such. As a matter of fact a Jewish Proverb says in the multitude of counsel there is safety and another says a child left alone will come to ruin. A lot of men have been destroyed because they have chosen not to be accountable. There must be a system around you that checks your life and all you do and that is why...

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE - WHEN TO RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 19– RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

 

The best place to stop an intruder is at the gate and not when you have served him dinner inside your bedroom

One of my mentors once told me that there are two ways to kill a lion – either you engage it in a combat and kill it if you are lucky just that you may have a few scars if you are strong enough. But there is another way which is to avoid a lion because a lion will naturally die for lack of prey. 

Too many times accidental spouses show signs and other times they even have a huge bill board with warning signs. Unfortunately, the passengers never read the warning signs because they are too much in love to see.

Here are some warning signs that shows when to run;

  • When you are seeing someone, who tells you he/she doesn’t believe he/she has to be accountable to any human being and goes further to say he is only accountable to God – RUN
  • When he/she says marriage is...
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IS YOUR SPOUSE ACCOUNTABLE?

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 18– WHO ARE YOU ACCOUNTABLE TO?

“A body of men holding themselves accountable to nobody ought not to be trusted by anybody.” 
― Thomas Paine

The fourth attribute of accidental spouse is  lack of accountability.

One consistent advice I have given to singles all through the years is never get married to a guy/lady who is not accountable or has got no mentor or someome he/she defers to because we are not built to be independent.

“Power corrupt and absolute power corrupt absolutely” this is why it is characteristic of military heads of states to run a tyrannical government because they have absolute powers. Everyone needs that one person in his/her life that can call him/her to order and the absence of that figure can spell doom for a man.

There must be someone in your life you respect enough to obey even when you are not sure of what he/she is saying. Unfortunately, lots of married...

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSES & MARITAL ASSUMPTION

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 16 – NEVER ASSUME MARRIAGE

I sit over domestic violence cases consistently and one common pattern I have noticed is the unequal yoke of the couples each time we run their beliefs assessment tests. The gap is often too wide that you knew they should never have married if the right things had been done in their marital preparatory class if there was any to start with.

Consistently a man whose definition of manhood is the superior gender that must be worshipped irrespective of his wisdom and competence marries a woman whose definition of a womanhood is the feminine expression of humanity(where manhood to her is defined as humanity).

How can these two live together successfully without any friction?

Assumption and lack of uniform definition of concepts and terms can totally destroy the joy of marriage that the two become a major accident waiting to happen. That is why beliefs alignment becomes critical in every marriage and this...

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Help! My Marital beliefs is killing me

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 15 – THE TRAJECTORY OF ERROR?

I usually would play a game in most of my classes by asking my students to write down something they are so sure of. I’d then ask the class to troubleshoot the belief with them to be sure it was their personal discovery or if they ever studied or questioned it before they accepted it. In 7 out of every 10 they usually discover their beliefs were borrowed beliefs.

More shocking for almost all the participants is the realization that not one of them every took out time to study simple everyday concepts like;

  • Who is a man vs woman?
  • What does husband or wife mean?
  • What is heaven or hell?
  • Who is a father or mother?
  • What is parenting?
  • Why did God make man?
  • What is marriage?

As you read this you may want to ask yourself the same question and if you can be honest with yourself I will appreciate your feedback. Have you ever took out time independently to study any of the above concepts...

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WHOSE IDEA ARE YOU?

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 14 – WHOSE IDEA ARE YOU?

The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are. A subtle kind of murder – Jim Morrison

A few years ago I started to question everything around me and within me because I was bent on getting the desired results in specific areas of my life. I had been thought too many things that was not working and I had completely forgotten that what I held unto for too long were learned behavior that I either picked by observation or by acquired knowledge. Most of the things I held unto were not beliefs I had questioned because I was not even given the chance to question them before I was socialized to believe them.

 The moment I started to question them it dawned on me how much I had learnt and become convinced about that had nothing to do with me. For example, I could be easily excused for getting married and expecting...

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ARE YOU CULTURALLY COMPATIBLE?

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 13 – CULTURAL COMPATIBILITY

The third important check you have to troubleshoot is the culture of your spouse which is basically powered by his/her beliefs. Unknown to many couples the beliefs they are often willing to die for are beliefs whose origin they have never examined and our unwillingness to shift from a belief that doesn’t promote the best interest of all eventually harms a marriage that could have been salvaged.

 When you hear the verse of the Bible that says ‘Don’t be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever’ what comes to your mind?

One gap we frequently miss from that verse is the word ‘Unbeliever’ which is an English word that means someone who doesn’t believe your beliefs. The person may not necessarily be a bad person, it just simply means the person is not the right fit for your beliefs and where you want to go. For example, if a man believes only his wife...

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HEALING IS YOUR RIGHTS

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 12 – HEALING IS YOUR RIGHTS

 I love what I do daily in assisting people uninstall their hell and install their desired heaven. It is a job that is more or less a calling for me because even though clients pay a bit above the national average for my services the miracle of  seeing my clients finally discovering themselves and giving themselves the permission to live having uninstalled the softwares of self sabotaging beliefs that held them bound for too long is nothing short of a miracle.

Accidental spouses ain’t bad people; they are often victims of a bad engineering by the people that influenced them. However, there comes a time you must take responsibility for your pain because pains don’t go away by wishing them away or hoping the person that hurts you comes back to apologize.

Pains go away by taking responsibility for rising above the pains with a view to discovering what you may have...

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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 11 – SCRAMBLING YOUR PAIN

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 ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 11 – SCRAMBLING YOUR PAIN

 Too many times it becomes tough to unmask a spouse who is in pains because their physical manifestation either looks like a virtue that looks commendable while the person is actually dying inside. Sometimes pains may manifest in the following ways;

  • Getting involved in so many activities that makes the person really appear zealous and dependable
  • Giving oneself fully to a task that you never rest or relax. This may appear as being a workaholic but could be masking inner pain that is yet to be confronted
  • Seeking to correct everyone at all times once their wrong is spotted such that you look like the one who can make everything right
  • Inability to stand those who are too playful and consistently calling them to get very serious. Sometimes while on the surface this looks like you are trying to get people focused truth is that their play often reminds you of what life stole from you or what you...
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