FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF
ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE - 2 (WHY DID YOU MARRY)?
In 18years of working with troubled relationships I have heard all sorts in counseling room that makes it easy to decipher why couples struggle about what should have been avoided.
Often times we have presented marriage as the ultimate state of life thereby putting unnecessary pressure on singles who have been badly engineered. How well can someone with an abusive past sustain a marriage when that abuse has not been well handled?
I can tell you for free that 9 out of every 10 couple I have worked with have never been able to satisfactorily answer the question "Why did you marry" and most of my clients never have a marital vision when they show up for their sessions.
I have heard some men tell me they married because they have always longed for someone to take care of the home front. You already know that man never needed a wife; what he wanted was a house keeper.
Another told me he married because he was lonely and incomplete without a woman then it makes you wonder how he has coped all his life and what he would do should she travel? A lady told me she was getting married because the man was the destiny helper that would wipe the tears of poverty away from her. Of course a sponsor would do a better job at that.
If the reason for wanting to get married is all about you without considering the desires and aspirations of the other and you are unwilling to provide a platform for their passion to find expression, one person will need to die emotionally for the other person to live and you know that is already an accidental marriage.
Why did you marry or why do you want to marry?
I am a SAVIOUR