FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF
ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE – 10
Pain is real and we can’t wish it away or pretend it doesn’t exist.
The subcoscious part of the human man chronicles a record of everything that has happened to us since we were born and they are all stored using the meaning we ascribed to it at the time they happened.
Your mind has got what looks like different faculties with similar information stored in the category they belong. For example every happy perceived happy moment is stored in your bliss channel while every perceived sad moment is stored in your horror movie channel. Every perceived relaxation is stored in your serenity channel and so on.
The amazing thing about our mind however is that it doesn’t know the difference between what is simulated and what is real. Which means sometime when you see a movie or listen to a story that involves the pains of others your mind can interpret it as your pain and store in your horror channel. If you don’t...
FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF
ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE - 2 (WHY DID YOU MARRY)?
In 18years of working with troubled relationships I have heard all sorts in counseling room that makes it easy to decipher why couples struggle about what should have been avoided.
Often times we have presented marriage as the ultimate state of life thereby putting unnecessary pressure on singles who have been badly engineered. How well can someone with an abusive past sustain a marriage when that abuse has not been well handled?
I can tell you for free that 9 out of every 10 couple I have worked with have never been able to satisfactorily answer the question "Why did you marry" and most of my clients never have a marital vision when they show up for their sessions.
I have heard some men tell me they married because they have always longed for someone to take care of the home front. You already know that man never needed a wife; what he wanted was a house keeper.
Another told me he married because he...
Chuks graduated from a prestigious University and it wasn't a problem getting his dream job after all his dad was well connected. He grew up with a retinue of house helps who were always there to serve him and even now that he has rented his apartment he has 3 domestic helps. He hadn't been lucky with relationships however because of his bad temper but his mum is on his neck to get married and produce a grandchild for her. The young man is under serious pressure but not even his mum is aware that he is an accidental spouse in waiting.
Yemisi on the other hand suddenly woke up at 33 and felt her biological clock was ticking and decided to marry Emma one of the nation's finest musicians who has a history of baby mamas but has been counselled by his mentor to get married to curb his uncontrollable sexual desires.
They both met on set during a movie award where Yemisi coasted home 5 awards having become the hottest actress and always on the front pages of every fashion...