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ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE

ACCIDENTAL SPOUSE

Chuks graduated from a prestigious University and it wasn't a problem getting his dream job after all his dad was well connected. He grew up with a retinue of house helps who were always there to serve him and even now that he has rented his apartment he has 3 domestic helps. He hadn't been lucky with relationships however because of his bad temper but his mum is on his neck to get married and produce a grandchild for her. The young man is under serious pressure but not even his mum is aware that he is an accidental spouse in waiting.

Yemisi on the other hand suddenly woke up at 33 and felt her biological clock was ticking and decided to marry Emma one of the nation's finest musicians who has a history of baby mamas but has been counselled by his mentor to get married to curb his uncontrollable sexual desires.

They both met on set during a movie award where Yemisi coasted home 5 awards having become the hottest actress and always on the front pages of every fashion...

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MAY DAY! MAY DAY!

FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF

 

MAY DAY

 

If you are a frequent flyer and you have experienced a very difficult turbulence then you will know that the most dreaded words from the cockpit of a pilot are May Day. Somehow these are 2 words already associated with a state of hopelessness which could mean that a crash was imminent but in actually fact it means ‘HELP ME’ or ‘COME and HELP ME’.

 

But the question is who should come and help and does the person have the capacity to help in the situation we find ourselves?

There was a MAY DAY account over 2000years ago in which there was going to be a shipwreck and the sailor had already signaled MAY DAY with everyone preparing for the worst except the young Jewish Rabbi who was asleep on a pillow.

 

Why was this guy asleep when everyone else seem to have lost hope? Why was he not scared?

 

The answer was simple; he had enough understanding that by predestination there was no way he would have...

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The power of your RITUAL - 2

Uncategorized Jan 27, 2021

FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF

 

The power of your RITUAL & ROUTINE  – 2

Here are a couples of facts about your ritual and routine

 

  • There is no greatness without a great routine
  • Every time you seek greatness without an intentional routine you set yourself up for accidental success
  • Routine makes giants and routine keep giants
  • Show me a global icon that has totally fallen off the cliff of greatness; I will show you a man who stopped paying attention to the routine that brought him to stardom
  • Your routine is the behaviour code that takes you in the direction of your destination and if you get the code right success is simply an effect
  • The bane of many is not understand the routine that must deliver the success they seek
  • If you get the routine wrong it is almost impossible to get the result right except by divine providence

Your routine is the sure route to delivering the result you desire. It is actually the prophesy that points you to your greatness and the...

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The power of your RITUAL

FAMILY LIFE TODAY with PF

The power of your RITUAL

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily; the secret of your future is in your daily routine – John C Maxwell

 

There is no high performing player who doesn’t have a daily ritual that makes their his life looks boring but highly effective.

I have studied so many high flyers and interviewed a number of successful people and consistently discovered the style that creates their life. It is often a narrow path that not many discover because too many of us love the broadway that looks good but will never take us to where we truly want to go.

 

Truth is a keen study of your 24hours is enough to conclude if you will eventually land where you truly want to go or you are depending on luck.

Imagine Anthony Joshua hanging out in clubs and bars more than gym

Imagine Christiano Ronaldo partying more than football practice

Imagine Mark Zuckerberg spending more time in gossip than on facebook...

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THE UNIVERSAL LAW OF BREAKTHROUGH

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THE UNIVERSAL LAW OF BREAKTHROUGH

 

Once upon a time Israel had a freedom fighter called Moses who created what is now known in corporate circles as the principle of delegation as well as showing humanity the possibility of walking through the ocean by parting the red sea from where the invention of bridges was taken.

 

But there was something instructive about Moses that was lost on many which was chronicled by King David in his poems. He wrote ‘Moses knew the way of God and the children of Israel His Acts’ therein lies the greatest secrets of breakthroughs because those that understand the ways will consistently produce the acts.

If you want to know the true secrets of a man go to his ‘BACK END’ and not the’FRONT END’ because every champion you see had a back end life that is not visible to many. So, while many get excited at their results and pray to God to replicate such they have not paid attention...

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SUCCESS IS A JOURNEY

personal development Jan 26, 2021

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SUCCESS IS A JOURNEY
Yesterday, Chelsea football club sacked their all time leading goal scorer Frank Lampard as their coach no thanks to a run of poor results. A lot of people did not believe he could be fired because his hiring was at best emotional having not had any prior top class experience of either managing a top team or assisting a top coach.
Frank Lampard retired from football and went into coaching and he was handed a team in the championship called Derby county. The team was 6th when he took over and despite their late push for promotion with some expansive football they still ended the season at 6th.
Everyone was impressed at his style of football and being a club legend many were convinced he was the right coach for Chelsea citing Pep Guardiola of Man City and Zidane of Real Madrid but they all forgot that these 2 coaches assisted some of the best football coaches and coached lower sides before they were entrusted with top teams.

Frank Lampard...

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The Catholic pathway to solving social problems

faith Oct 30, 2020


I was on a project as a consultant a couple years ago. It was a catholic and a US agency sponsored project. I was very excited about it since it was my first project that would have links to the Vatican and I needed to maximize it.
As I went through the entire curriculum which had been delivered in over 70000 communities I carefully noticed that there was no mention of god factor or prayer time in the entire 28 week intervention. As a matter of fact there was no hail Mary or sign of rosary. It could have passed for a Harvard led intervention because it was purely data driven and scientific in its execution yet very effective.
My brief was to review the entire curriculum and make Inputs that made it user friendly to a particular country. I noticed there were ways to measure the intervention and there were milestones to the entire project.
I was so blown away that I had to engage one of the foreigners on the project and sought to find out how they solved social problems and the guy said...

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The Death of SHAME

faith Sep 24, 2020

One of my favorite sessions in group coaching and therapy is the tree of life system. 
This is one activity that promotes our humanity and helps us see ourselves the way we are. It is an activity that makes you draw your entire life as a tree showing 
your root - background, 
your right trunk- the good memories, 
Your left trunk - Your bad memories 
Your branches - hopes and aspirations 
Your fruits - Gifts and talents 
Your leaves - People in your life that inspire you 
Tree insects - Secrets and habits that can take you down

The most vital aspect of the exercise is when you have to exchange your tree with a partner and share without shame your entire life history.

In the last one year i have seen people destroy shame by freely sharing their pains and dirty sides that no one knows. I have seen people experience liberation by simply knowing that there is not one of us without a dark patch. I have boldly share my errors and mistakes and foolishness...

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Re- OKADA BAN - The Family life angle

Sisi Yemi studied mechanical engineering and hasn't been able to get a job since she left school until Opay launched their bikes. She had always driven her boyfriend's power bike when she was in school but had never thought of riding commercial bikes for a living because of the unregulated nature of that sector.
But she jumped at the Opay structure and became one of the favorite riders of clients around Lagos with her cheerful smile and the way she welcomed clients on her bike. You almost could feel her excitement as she rode with joy and assured you of safety. She smiled home everyday with a minimum of 6k having taken care of other stuff and she was very happy with her life until the Lagos state government showed up.

Unknown to many she has parents in the village who depend on what she sends home monthly since she started the job and she managed to support her kid brother with a token monthly.

What she would do next with this new law is a question no one has thought through.

Seeing...

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The Institute of Family engineering and development Africa

The US Travel Restrictions - The Family Systems Engineering response 

One of the core modules we teach at the Institute of Family Engineering and development during the Family Systems Engineering Certification program is the Family Immigration systems. 

And that module is premised on the fundamental thought that says 'It could be detrimental to the peace of your family to grant permanent residency to people you have not filtered through your family values. It goes further to say anyone that upset the peace of the family systems you want to build is a domestic terrorist and you must find a way to ease them out' 

There is usually a lot of argument in class each time we teach this because for a continent that is used to deploring emotions for decisions as against systems it becomes very tough to process why you may need to evict your brother inlaw who is disrupting the peace of your family by being rude to your wife and has refused to change. 

Unknown to many Family...

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